By Dan Savage - July 25,2024

Savage Love: Feed your kink, not your partner

For the longest time I’ve been into the feederism kink. It’s specifically the weight gain aspect of this kink — making myself or others bigger — that turns me on. I’ve...

By Dan Savage - July 18,2024

Savage Love: The gay-straight alliance

We’re a straight couple in our forties. We have some very dear friends who are younger and queer, and we sometimes find ourselves giving them life and relationship advice. We...

By Dan Savage - July 10,2024

Savage Love: Straight man, queer relationship

I am a 45-year-old married straight guy. After more than a decade of dipping in and out of the swinging lifestyle, my wife and I have decided to open up...

By Dan Savage - June 27,2024

The healing potential of BDSM

I had a sexual experience that’s left me feeling shitty. Met another gay man on an apps, got wasted together at a leather bar, fucked at his place on a...

By Dan Savage - June 13,2024

Savage Love: June 13, 2024

1. I hooked up during a lunch break. While I was sucking on a dude’s titties with his encouragement, he started sucking on my neck. I shook him off as...

By Dan Savage - June 6,2024

Savage Love: June 6, 2024

1. Is pegging only for butts or can vaginas get pegged too? When the term originated in my column — when my readers selected “pegging” as the name for a...

By Dan Savage - May 30,2024

Savage Love: May 30, 2024

I’m frustrated. I’m transmasc and use silicone “attachments.” My partner is assigned male at birth. Also relevant: We have very old hardwood floors, non-laminated.  For years, I have expressed frustrations...

By Dan Savage - May 16,2024

Savage Love: May 16, 2024

I was chatting with a couple of friends and the topic turned to clearing out a loved one’s belongings after they’ve passed away and some of the interesting, strange or...

By Dan Savage - May 2,2024

Savage Love: May 2, 2024

1. I’m 53-year-old straight woman. I’ve been talking with a guy online for three years — text, voice, video. I am in love with him. He is my daily companion and...

By Dan Savage - April 24,2024

Savage Love: April 25, 2024

I’m a cis gay man in Canada. Other than my supportive nonbinary partner of five years and a few close friends, most people in my life don’t know that I’m...

By Dan Savage - April 11,2024

Savage Love: April 11, 2024

I was told you help women who feel shame about their orgasms. I’ve been in my relationship for five years and always had difficulty orgasming. About a year ago, I...

By Dan Savage - April 4,2024

Savage Love: April 4, 2024

1. I’m a single cis gay man, and I’ve been going back and forth between wanting an open relationship or a throuple/quad when I start dating again. Do you have...

By Dan Savage - March 28,2024

Savage Love: March 28, 2024

I’m involved with a guy who’s married and, yes, I’m a cliché and I know it. I don’t want him to leave his wife. I don’t even want to be...

By Dan Savage - March 21,2024

Savage Love: March 21, 2024

Cis-het dude here in my 30s. I’ve had to spend several multi-month periods away from my wife over the last couple years for work. During the last long separation, I...

By Dan Savage - March 14,2024

Savage Love: March 14, 2024

I have a history of dating men I’m not attracted to physically or emotionally. I always found it weirdly comforting to know my boyfriend was obsessed with me while I...

By Dan Savage - March 7,2024

Savage Love: March 7, 2024

I’m at the point in my life where I’m a caregiver for my parents and my partner. It’s exhausting. I don’t have an open relationship with my partner, although I’d...

By Dan Savage - February 29,2024

Savage Love: Feb. 29, 2024

1. Best advice on dating without resorting to apps? Go places, do shit, meet people, fuck ‘em. 2. I’m about to visit a gay nudist resort for the first time,...

By Dan Savage - February 15,2024

Savage Love: Feb. 15, 2024

I am invited to a (gay) sex party. When invited for dinner, you bring a bottle of wine, but what is the proper etiquette for a sex party? Come showered...

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